Do you have a friend who asks how you are and when you start to answer, cuts you off to talk about herself? Or maybe there’s a drama queen? Or someone with the “poor me” attitude?
Well, these are signs of toxic people in your life.
And they could be ruining your health – mentally, emotionally and physically – and you might not even realize it!
This past year, I have heard from many people about how they have released people from their lives. Ones who were “pulling them down”, “draining their energy”, inconsiderate and how good they felt after releasing them. Their sleep was better.
Stress levels went down.
They had less anxiety.
No more adrenal fatigue.
But keep in mind that a person isn’t toxic.
It’s their behavior or your relationship with them that is toxic.
And we all have the choice to include them in our life or not. Although sometimes it might not be so easy to cut them out completely, there are ways to help you manage the situation better if a clean cut is not feasible.
So what are some traits of a toxic person in your life?
- Someone who takes without giving
- You feel drained or tired after talking or spending time with them
- They are judgmental or always criticizing you
- Apologizes are not something they do because they are always right
- Always looking at themselves as a victim
- Lack of responsibility
- Not supportive or interested in what is important to you
- Turning situations into a drama
Know anyone with any of these traits?
If so, how do you release them from your life?
The best way is to send them love and move on. But we all know, that isn’t always so doable. So if you can’t cut them out of your life completely, here are some ideas to help make your life easier when they are around:
- Take responsibility for your difficulties and weaknesses so they can’t push your buttons
- Don’t expect them to change
- Establish and maintain boundaries
- Refuse to be pulled into crises
- Learn to say “No”
- Express your feelings about your relationship to them
- Realize they may resist your change of perspective
- Surround yourself with healthy relationships
And if being around them is unavoidable, you might want to try these ideas to help protect you from their vibes:
Diffuse, wear as perfume or put on the bottoms of your feet any of these oils:
Lavender is calming
Citrus Oils (Lemon, Lime, Grapefruit, Orange) are uplifting
Cypress helps to raise the vibration in a room while also purifying the air
TerraShield or OnGuard (doTERRA Essential Oils proprietary blends) helps to repel negativity
(If you would like to learn more about essential oils, click here: http://livebalancednaturally.com/essential-oils/) Crystals
Put in your room, on your desk, wear as jewelry or put in a pouch and tuck into your clothes:
Taking deep breaths calms to the body and the mind and helps you to think more clearly.
If you know beforehand that you will be around a toxic person, take a couple minutes for yourself to sit quietly and take some deep breaths.
If you can’t prepare for them, do some deep breathing while they are in the room or even ask them to stop talking for a couple of minutes and then do the breathing. They might even decide to join you!
The way you choose to deal with toxic people in your life is up to you. But remember, it’s basically self-care. And self-care is NOT selfish! I’d love to hear how you handle or have released toxic people in your life. Feel free to leave a comment.
In Peace and Good Health,
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